How is your Selfishness Satisfied?

Everyone is selfish that a truth..
Still many people land up visiting me with problems of depression, stress or fear even if their selfish desires came true.

The reason - selfishness compromises of 6 psychological parameters -

1. Time Limit - Your mind has a "mental clock", if your desires ain't fulfilled in this time frame, the mind starts detaching from the same.

The more restless you are the shorter your time limit.

2. Favorably Unique - Your selfishness should be satisfied in a way its better than everyone elses.

3. Reaction - your selfishness should trigger a reaction in others.

4. You and only You - Your selfishness should only benefit you and those you want. Not anyone else.

5. Accepted - Everyone should accept your selfishness and suppress their own. They should keep giving you love, care and kindness.

6. Unquestionable - Nobody should question you about your selfishness. Accepting that you have been selfish is difficult. It can trigger emotions from embarrassment to anger. So like to hide it under "greater ideals"

When all these 6 are satisfied, selfishness gives extreme pleasure and fulfillment.
 Else it can give rise depression, fear and anger.

Why is the strength of the mind hurt?

Once Confident, Now Lost it?

There are so many people who once were very confident!! But today, they are confused, scared and restless.

Why is the strength of the mind hurt?
The most common reasons are -
a. Sadness thats present for more than 2 weeks.
b. Constant criticism at work or home.
c. feeling alone after - losing a partner, lover or dear friend.
d. lack of appreciation from family or at work.
e. uncontrolled anger
f. development of inferiority complex - due to constant comparison with others.
g. fear of what people will say or comment on your action?
h. financial difficulties
i. suspiciousness about others and their intentions.
j. lack of pleasant relationships.
k. Stress cycle - mind involved in uncontrolled over-thinking and imagination.
l. Repeated failure in work, relationships or sexual life.

Treatment -
a. attention to self
b. consulting a counselor or psychiatrist to help bring emotions under control.
c. re-training the mind to focus on the confidence.
d. removal of guilt or sadness for failing on your confidence levels.
e. enjoying, appreciating and loving confidence development in self.